Love and Respect

More tips on how to have a great marriage.

Having a wonderful marriage takes work. Lately I have been writing about various aspects of marriage and what God expects from each person. This week I have been studying the aspect of honoring your spouse. Have you ever really understood how to honor your spouse?

Honoring your spouse is about love and respect. It is something that must be done in order for each person to feel happy and safe in a marriage. Honoring your spouse is an action. It is not a passive event and if honor is not shown to the other person, then it does not exist properly.

One of the main ways to honor your spouse is to put their feelings before your own. This means that you should constantly be looking at the way they feel and trying to understand it. It is a matter of love and respect. If you love your spouse, you will respect your spouse.

With these two things also comes honoring your spouse. By looking at the needs of your spouse, you will better understand your spouse. Your spouse will begin to feel that his needs are important to you and this will make your spouse want to give back to you.

Loving and respecting someone that is so different than yourself is not something that you should expect to come naturally. It takes work. There is no good marriage out there that does not need work. If your spouse is unwilling to honor and respect you, he may someday change. God wants you to do your part and that is all you can do. Pray for your spouse that God would reveal this to him and you may see a change.

Serving your spouse

This is one secret to a great marriage.

There are many secrets to good marriages, but I have recently discovered what I believe is one of the most important. It is the act of serving your spouse. Serving your spouse is something that is important because it essentially is serving God.

God calls spouses to do this. The bodies of a married couple belong to each other, and it is vital to provide your spouse with the things that he or she needs. In order to do this effectively, you must surrender yourself and your own needs to God. Ask God to help you fulfill and satisfy your partner and to not focus on your own needs. God is faithful. If you surrender yourself to this, you may notice a huge change. This can be difficult though. It can be especially hard if you continuously do this and your spouse does not do this in return. You may feel like you are giving way more than your spouse is, and this might be true.

What you need to keep in mind with this is that you are only responsible for yourself. If you serve your spouse in everything, you are doing the right thing. Your spouse will be accountable to God for not doing his part if that is what has happened. Pray to God to give you the strength and the desire to learn what your partner’s needs are and to do them. Always remember that everyone is different. God does not call you to serve your spouse the way that you want to, but rather the way that your spouse needs you to.

Listen to an audio version of the Bible

This is a great alternative for Bible reading

My husband is not a reader, but his Bible study leader has been pushing him to read the Bible more. His suggestion was to listen to the Bible instead of reading it. This is a great alternative for Bible reading. If you don’t like to read, you can still get the message from listening to it.There are several ways to do this. You can purchase audio versions of CDs of the Bible. They are available in several versions. If you have a smart phone you can download a Bible application. This will allow you to choose a version and a voice will read it to you. You can choose the passage that you want.

I have one tip for doing this. My husband listens to this on his way to work and is often overwhelmed during his 45-minute commute because there is so much information. My tip is that you should do this in short increments. Don’t try to listen to it for 45 minutes straight. You will most likely not get a lot out of it. Instead of doing this, try listening to one or two chapters at a time.

After listening to this, think about what you heard and pray about it. You will most likely be able to get more out of it by doing it this way. Before you listen to it, you can always pray and ask God to speak to you through the passage you will be listening to today. This is a great alternative for people that do not like reading.


The benefits of marriage counseling

Marriage counseling can make a world of difference.

My boyfriend and I are engaged now and we have been reading a book called “Sacred Marriage.” This book was recommended by a marriage counselor at our church and it is very interesting. The main theme of the book is that marriage is designed to make us holy, not happy.

What an interesting concept this is, but it really does make sense. If we set out to make each other happy in our marriage, we will consistently fail. If we set out to find our happiness from God, we will be able to achieve that if we try. Marriage is not an easy task by any means. This will be my second marriage, and I have already learned so much simply by attending marriage counseling.

We are seeing a marriage counselor at our church, and he is trying to help us realize what marriage is all about. I highly recommend this type of counseling for all married couples or couples that are planning on getting married soon. This is one way to learn what marriage is really about and how to make it work.

My boyfriend and I have been talking a lot about the things we have learned so far, and we both agree on one thing: If we always put God first in our relationship and always aim to do the will of God, our marriage will be successful. Everything else will fall into place. The key is for both of us to keep our eyes on the goal. If we follow God and trust him, we can have a very fulfilling and successful marriage.


Trusting God in every decision

Do you trust God in all parts of your life?

Trusting God in every part of life can be very difficult. I have been experiencing a situation right now in my life where I am facing this. I know in my heart what God is telling me to do, but doing it can be very hard.

Hebrews 13:5 contains a promise from God. It says, “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” This is a verse that all of us should remember. 

To me, these words are a promise directly from God; however, I do believe there is one key thing to remember. This one thing is that God promises this to us, but God also expects us to follow his lead. God knows what is best for us. If we can trust that, then we can always trust the things he has planned for us.

Sometimes our lives feel really bad, and this is often because we fail to listen to the Holy Spirit when it speaks to our hearts. If we hear this voice, we need to listen, and sometimes it is telling us to do something that is very uncomfortable for us to do, or something that is very hard. The truth is that if we would do what we are told to do, our lives would end up so much better. God has such great things in store for those that love him and follow him.

Mother's Day: A good reminder

This is a great time to remember what a mother is.

Mother’s Day weekend just occurred and it is always a great reminder for me about being a mother. There are numerous Bible verses that talk about characteristics of a wife and a mother. One of these is Proverbs 31.

Proverbs 31:10 says, “A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” This passage continues on to describe what a noble woman is and I find this very intriguing. Being a good mother and a good wife begins in the heart. I believe that it would be very hard to be the type of mother God wants me to be if I didn’t have God living in my heart. 

Now don’t get me wrong. I do not believe that every non-Christian mother is a bad mother. That is not at all what I am saying. I do believe though that it is a mother’s responsibility to instill Christian values into the children. This simply is not possible if the mother is not a believer.

Mothers play a vital role in the lives of children. They serve their children, nurture them and teach them. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs in this world, but it is one of the most rewarding at the same time. God gave us each a mother for many reasons, and who loves you more than your own mother?

As a mother, I don’t know how there could possibly be a deeper love than the type a mother has for her children. I know that I am wrong though because the love God has for us is much deeper than the love is that a mother has for her child.


Take a step of faith

Trusting God is difficult, but it is what God wants from you.

It can be extremely difficult to place your complete trust in God. I find this every day of my life, but I had an experience this weekend that helped me learn that I can trust God with everything in my life.

I was having a conversation with someone this weekend, and something slipped out of my mouth that I have no clue why I said it. It wasn’t anything bad, but it was me opening myself up to a situation that I have been scared of. Luckily, the conversation went the way I was hoping. What I learned from it was amazing, though. I learned that because I was willing to take a step in a direction that I was unsure of, God had my back. God was right there all of the time, and because of my willingness to trust him, he protected me.

This happens so many times in my life, but too many times I fail to take that step of faith. Instead, I stay in my own little world where I feel safe. This is not what God wants though. He wants us to step into the unknown and trust that he will be there for us. How many of us are good at this? I don’t think I am, but now that it has recently happened to me, I am hoping that I can trust him more.

Trusting God is extremely difficult. It is so hard to trust in something that you cannot see, even if you have great faith. This week, take a step that you feel led to do and trust God to have your back.

The Book of John

Different than the other three Gospels

My church just recently finished a sermon series entitled, “I Met Jesus.” This series was based on the Gospel of John. The Gospels in the New Testament consist of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John; however, the Gospel of John is much different than the other three.

Each of the sermons in this series was about a different person that had met Jesus. The sermons described the people and the changes that were made in their lives after meeting Jesus. The book of John is filled with stories of people that had met Jesus, and this book is very different than the other three books. The first three Gospels all contain much of the same information, but the book of John has different stories.

I think one of the main things that the book of John can teach us is the difference that was made in the lives of those who met Jesus. Most people that met Jesus had lives that were changed for the better because of this. Only two people described in this book had negative consequences. These two were Pontius Pilate and Judas Iscariot.

As Christians, we should experience positive changes too from meeting Jesus. Jesus came to this world so that we could be different and have eternal life with Him. If you have not changed after meeting Jesus, it is time to examine your heart. God is the only one that knows your heart. If you feel like you are not changed, ask God to reveal to you changes that you need to make in your life.

Do not be anxious

Ask God to exchange your anxiety for his peace

Philippians 4:6-7 of the English Standard Version says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” These words were written by Paul, a servant of God and they are words that I cling to.

I am known to be an anxious person – a worrier. I know that worrying is a sin, but I have trouble stopping myself. These verses often help them though, and they can help you too. The Bible strictly says not to worry or be anxious about anything. But, how do we take these worries and get rid of them? These verses answer that question. We pray to God to accomplish this. We plead with God about them, and then we stick to the promises God makes us. If we can learn to trade our worries for the promises God gave us, we can live worry free.

One promise is listed in verse 7 of this passage where it says that, “the peace of God will guard your hearts.” This is what the feeling of anxiety lacks. It lacks peace, but people that feel anxious want peace. In fact that is the number one thing they are looking for.

Next time, you are feeling worried, remember this verse. When you pray to God about it, ask him to replace these feelings with feelings of peace. God is faithful, and he wants his people to be full of peace.

Start a prayer journal

A prayer journal can change your life

It can be hard to remember what to pray for each day, but by starting a prayer journal this task can be a lot easier. There is another key benefit of a prayer journal, and it is a great habit to get into.

You can create a prayer journal in any type of notebook, big or small. The key to a prayer journal is to keep track each day of what you are praying for. Include the names of people you know that are sick or injured, or those that are emotionally wounded. Make a list of people that you are praying for regarding their salvation too. Another thing to list is your own personal concerns and problems.

After listing all of these things, it is also important to make a list of praises each day. Every day, it is important to praise God for all of the good things that have happened. By starting a journal like this, you will have a more clear direction of what you need to pray for. This can help improve your prayer life tremendously.

One key reward you can get from doing this is that you have a written record of answered prayers. As you keep track of your prayers, you may notice that certain things you once prayed for out of concern have now turned into praises to God. A prayer journal is a great way to keep track of all of these things. You can literally turn back through the pages to see how God is working in your life.